‘Me’ the rider until I am my own…

Profoundly for the uncivil autowalas.…my biggest civil foes:

Never negotiate for destinations, ask for once, if not agreeable, move to the next- they are not doing us any favor.

Avoid undesirable discussions- susceptible to unwanted conversations (who’s interested!!).

Bring the existence of meter reading system to notice- shows your sensibility as a responsive citizen.

Use public transportation (if viable) - the most passive alternative.

Also, depending on the severity of the situation- one could act noting down the vehicle number and intimidating them for RTO’s action on it.

Respect the Government’s initiative to safeguard citizens’ rights…relate to it personally.

For complaints in Bangalore: Log on http://rto.kar.nic.in/

Pelmo's Hierarchy Of Needs for Existence (PHONE): For Us and Around

Well, the PHONE is modeled with an inspiration from the unceasing Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs of the mid 1950s. This is however the Needs' Model of my way, our days-current times. It is entirely an individualist interpretation, so may not be considered too good to theorize. You may wish to consider it as an evolution of the 'third kind'.

The theoretical explanation could be a result of an obsessive emotional expression or an idealist imagination of perfect human existence.

I call it the PHONE, which also has a tangible connotation in the modern day work, play and management. This will be explained in detail once we have a progressive understanding to my notion of theory building.

My theory of Needs has a pyramidical representation like great Maslow's and I too begin with a bottom-up approach. I first have the 'default needs' which we can also consider filling with wide variants of our living structures-accommodating the proportional space of the many tangible figures. The following attributes, both tangible and non-tangible are considered the 'default needs' for one's existence:

1. Default Needs: Air, water, food, shelter,family, friends, sex, physical comfort, mobile phones indeed!

After having attained all the 'default needs' we strive for a little higher band of attributional needs and I call that the 'Satisfying Needs'. This includes:

2. Satisfying Needs: Material stability, Relationship matureness, Knowledge practicality, Societal acceptance, Family coherence

I believe all the conjunct words for the above needs'-band are self-explanatory and may resonant on today's modern lifestyle. However, in case for any clarification, readers can mark a comment. Moving higher up for meaningful attainment of life and breathing, I consider band of 'Corrective Needs' to be the values and attributes that help our mind and soul converge for better living and a world of peace and harmony. Having acquired the 'default needs' and the 'satisfying' ones, we tend to explore our outer selves, neighbors and the world . The spaces outside homes, communities, associations, clubs and meets.This I call the willingess to complete one's cycle of existence, foster meaning and respect to life- barring all religious beliefs and traditional practices.Therefore, this band of needs include the following:

3. Corrective Needs: Cross tolerance, Constructive criticism, Proactive dwelling,Virtues, Emotions, Principles,Values

The 'corrective needs' may require just a slender description in case we misinterpret...for we have the world with us now. Having mentioned that 'default and satisfying needs' are more to do about oneself, individual desires and peace of mind, while 'corrective needs' and other to follow include the world and other along. This is the phase where we try to re-evaluate, re-calculate and re-define our positions and life meanings.This requires abundant tolerance and space for listening.We need to merge ourselves with the outer world-workplace, neighbors, culture, creativity, government and politics. We bare the hearts for resistance, wrong influence and continuous self improvement. With this follows to give constructive feedback and not just criticism and gossips.

This becomes more evident in the complex multi-lateral societies when life races for ultimatums all the time. One can succumb and sustain only with the willingness to be proactive to change, to change for better. And, this can be achieved only with a willful heart of right virtues, emotions, principles and values.

Having attained the values and attributes of the 'corrective needs' we move upward for 'coping needs'. We require those hearts and minds that can accept and tolerate change and wellbeing. Hence, coping band of needs include:

4. Coping needs: Acceptance, Respect, Understanding, Realization and Rationalization

The adjunct words however does not imply to any irrational understanding.So now the question arises as to how does one differentiate between a rational and an irrational decision? For we have considered the world of tolerance and value construction. Here, we need to judge the situation and not the decision maker. We need to evaluate the context and place of occurrence and not the individual. This will avoid the world from being 'pre and post' judgmental and evade unnecessary heroism.

By now, we almost have it all, we now seek for spiritual oneness with the world and the God. We have passed the phase of struggle, chaos, noise and worries, we've got our partial-peace of minds now. We got those hearts to look out for those blissful souls. This includes:

5. Spiritual Needs: Dedication, Solidarity, Philanthropy, Belief, Trust and Faith

In attaining most of the cognizable and tangible needs in life, we look for spiritual and philanthropic growth of oneself and of the world in entirety. And this can be achieved only if one is happy and satisfied with oneself....I say this because I've met scores of people who are not happy with themselves so can't see the world be happy either. This disgruntlement is the food for unhealthy growth of fruit and the fields.So all needs to be happy first to make the world happier. And all these efforts begin from the womb and the home. We can thus, point out the importance of value living, education and best practices- all that begins from one's home.

We now move to the highest band of needs which Maslow calls Self-actualization. For PHONE, self-actualization gets encrypted way ahead when we endeavor for mutual virtue and tolerance (Corrective needs). Correcting and coping modern discruptions and open discomforts, one can attain complete satisfaction with all the material and spiritual gains when one starts to experiment. Experiencing happens only when we have all the five crude bands of need in hand. This happens when we know what we are and what we want. PHONE however explains a very young span of life where self actualization needs to be attained in one's rather very tender age. Modern lives got no time for deliberating, we explore, we experience. A full fledge experimenting begins only once one knows what gives them real happiness and genuine pleasure.

6. Experiential Needs: Volunteering, Cross-membership, Participation and Contribution

However, the 'experiential needs' are endeavored by a very handful individuals who have been successful and content with their lives and the world. And we all know that it is 'not-so-easy' is to be successful very quickly these days. So this band of needs include quite a wide stretch of success stories and achievement histories. The experiential needs, nevertheless demands only honest hearts with meaningful lives to be involved in voluteering and contributional experiencing than anyone without self actualization and self exploration. 'Who haven't thy explored, cannot explore thee...'

The PHONE explains the modern fast-paced hierarchy of needs to which cross-industrial management units of both public and private entities from anywhere, could refer for new policy making. I know how secondary researching works! This is an honest contribution to reconstruct the 'old school buildings'....perhaps very soon!

Women Fight Back....

Tarot Guide…an Apostle of LOVE

Love is all that everyone looks for...so exchanging Love Rings would mean “I give myself to you”...this requires a whole huge heart of truth, trust, confidence, will power, honesty and life long commitment to the relationship. I’m sure all lovers, soon-to-be Brides and Grooms have several questions to ask…Is the person the right one? Will this relationship last? Are we lucky together? What risks might it curtail and so on…?

You can strengthen all these with the help of Tarot guide to love. Tarot card reading is an ancient method of foretelling events in one’s future. The reading however, is best to be left for the experts of this art of interpretation….unless, you’ve mastered it yourself! For wrong interpretation may also not be so worthy. This is not at all simple as it may sound, you need to know the card layouts and its meanings, requires immense deep psychic impressions, and never should it be interpreted to risk one’s soul. So please do keep it simple…

This can definitely help you reveal the truth within your lover’s heart…foresee where your relationship is really going ... explore if the person feel right about it all and if so to happen, the reading CAN get you all ready, set and finally head you to the ‘Knottin’ Ceremony’.

Few interpretations you may want to know:

The Lovers

This card purely interprets love echelon in one’s life…and it may also mean friends and family, depending on the situation and moment of its interpretation.

Its got an angel or a cupid, a man and a woman, two trees (Adam and Eve with one tree having a serpent and apples), in some decks one tree has flowerings, while the other has fruits, in some decks there is a man standing between two women too.

This card seemed to have been originally called just LOVE, following the sequence of tarot reading after the Emperor. This card helps you make the right decision and lends a hand to get things simpler.

Chetna Parekh, a veteran tarot interpreter from the City who used to write for Hyderabad Deccan Chronicle and Times of India says, “Tarot reading is all about questions of science.” This card may also sometime mean ‘perfect communication’, maybe about finding something your soul totally requires. So if you happen to choose this card, you will be told to trust you instincts, to choose the same career, challenge, person or thing you're strongly drawn to, no matter how scary, difficult, how irrational or troublesome – for its said to be worth a choice for your future.

Well, I’ve tried it…I did ask couple of questions of my love relationship and Chetna confirmed through the cards that I was already in a relationship…that I am! The guy is good…aahhh he is! Looks pretty stable in his career…pretty much! Marriage foreseen pretty soon…eeuuuuwww WOW! And seem to be the dominating one…ok actually, maybe?? And this is where I’ve cautioned myself! I can’t expect everything to be perfect but I definitely don’t want him to be dominating one either. So I’m working on to stand by my words and just be myself- nothing like it! To be dominated is anyway just allowing your partner to pull your strings…I could control that. Thanks Chetna!

You could go for it too! By the time I am ready to tie the knot myself…he would no longer be the dominating one. That’s what I was talking about…it helps you make the right move. This art is the art of helping you see your own reflections and of the world around you too. So go for it and have a healthy interpretation to it all, be it good or bad! For life is all about ‘pursuit of happiness’ but in a rational manner!!

What I heard from many:

* If you are now thinking of buying a set of tarot deck for yourself…NEVER! Always have it GIFTED…

* If you already own one, never share it with anyone…it so said to lose its spiritual vibrations and the individual power of connectivity that the cards hold with you.