Pelmo's Hierarchy Of Needs for Existence (PHONE): For Us and Around

Well, the PHONE is modeled with an inspiration from the unceasing Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs of the mid 1950s. This is however the Needs' Model of my way, our days-current times. It is entirely an individualist interpretation, so may not be considered too good to theorize. You may wish to consider it as an evolution of the 'third kind'.

The theoretical explanation could be a result of an obsessive emotional expression or an idealist imagination of perfect human existence.

I call it the PHONE, which also has a tangible connotation in the modern day work, play and management. This will be explained in detail once we have a progressive understanding to my notion of theory building.

My theory of Needs has a pyramidical representation like great Maslow's and I too begin with a bottom-up approach. I first have the 'default needs' which we can also consider filling with wide variants of our living structures-accommodating the proportional space of the many tangible figures. The following attributes, both tangible and non-tangible are considered the 'default needs' for one's existence:

1. Default Needs: Air, water, food, shelter,family, friends, sex, physical comfort, mobile phones indeed!

After having attained all the 'default needs' we strive for a little higher band of attributional needs and I call that the 'Satisfying Needs'. This includes:

2. Satisfying Needs: Material stability, Relationship matureness, Knowledge practicality, Societal acceptance, Family coherence

I believe all the conjunct words for the above needs'-band are self-explanatory and may resonant on today's modern lifestyle. However, in case for any clarification, readers can mark a comment. Moving higher up for meaningful attainment of life and breathing, I consider band of 'Corrective Needs' to be the values and attributes that help our mind and soul converge for better living and a world of peace and harmony. Having acquired the 'default needs' and the 'satisfying' ones, we tend to explore our outer selves, neighbors and the world . The spaces outside homes, communities, associations, clubs and meets.This I call the willingess to complete one's cycle of existence, foster meaning and respect to life- barring all religious beliefs and traditional practices.Therefore, this band of needs include the following:

3. Corrective Needs: Cross tolerance, Constructive criticism, Proactive dwelling,Virtues, Emotions, Principles,Values

The 'corrective needs' may require just a slender description in case we misinterpret...for we have the world with us now. Having mentioned that 'default and satisfying needs' are more to do about oneself, individual desires and peace of mind, while 'corrective needs' and other to follow include the world and other along. This is the phase where we try to re-evaluate, re-calculate and re-define our positions and life meanings.This requires abundant tolerance and space for listening.We need to merge ourselves with the outer world-workplace, neighbors, culture, creativity, government and politics. We bare the hearts for resistance, wrong influence and continuous self improvement. With this follows to give constructive feedback and not just criticism and gossips.

This becomes more evident in the complex multi-lateral societies when life races for ultimatums all the time. One can succumb and sustain only with the willingness to be proactive to change, to change for better. And, this can be achieved only with a willful heart of right virtues, emotions, principles and values.

Having attained the values and attributes of the 'corrective needs' we move upward for 'coping needs'. We require those hearts and minds that can accept and tolerate change and wellbeing. Hence, coping band of needs include:

4. Coping needs: Acceptance, Respect, Understanding, Realization and Rationalization

The adjunct words however does not imply to any irrational understanding.So now the question arises as to how does one differentiate between a rational and an irrational decision? For we have considered the world of tolerance and value construction. Here, we need to judge the situation and not the decision maker. We need to evaluate the context and place of occurrence and not the individual. This will avoid the world from being 'pre and post' judgmental and evade unnecessary heroism.

By now, we almost have it all, we now seek for spiritual oneness with the world and the God. We have passed the phase of struggle, chaos, noise and worries, we've got our partial-peace of minds now. We got those hearts to look out for those blissful souls. This includes:

5. Spiritual Needs: Dedication, Solidarity, Philanthropy, Belief, Trust and Faith

In attaining most of the cognizable and tangible needs in life, we look for spiritual and philanthropic growth of oneself and of the world in entirety. And this can be achieved only if one is happy and satisfied with oneself....I say this because I've met scores of people who are not happy with themselves so can't see the world be happy either. This disgruntlement is the food for unhealthy growth of fruit and the fields.So all needs to be happy first to make the world happier. And all these efforts begin from the womb and the home. We can thus, point out the importance of value living, education and best practices- all that begins from one's home.

We now move to the highest band of needs which Maslow calls Self-actualization. For PHONE, self-actualization gets encrypted way ahead when we endeavor for mutual virtue and tolerance (Corrective needs). Correcting and coping modern discruptions and open discomforts, one can attain complete satisfaction with all the material and spiritual gains when one starts to experiment. Experiencing happens only when we have all the five crude bands of need in hand. This happens when we know what we are and what we want. PHONE however explains a very young span of life where self actualization needs to be attained in one's rather very tender age. Modern lives got no time for deliberating, we explore, we experience. A full fledge experimenting begins only once one knows what gives them real happiness and genuine pleasure.

6. Experiential Needs: Volunteering, Cross-membership, Participation and Contribution

However, the 'experiential needs' are endeavored by a very handful individuals who have been successful and content with their lives and the world. And we all know that it is 'not-so-easy' is to be successful very quickly these days. So this band of needs include quite a wide stretch of success stories and achievement histories. The experiential needs, nevertheless demands only honest hearts with meaningful lives to be involved in voluteering and contributional experiencing than anyone without self actualization and self exploration. 'Who haven't thy explored, cannot explore thee...'

The PHONE explains the modern fast-paced hierarchy of needs to which cross-industrial management units of both public and private entities from anywhere, could refer for new policy making. I know how secondary researching works! This is an honest contribution to reconstruct the 'old school buildings'....perhaps very soon!

An ode to life and friendship…opening of my third-eye!

In the mist of strangers, I yet joined a new company for victuals and to maintain my existing class (whatever I had, wherever I fitted) and to dodge myself off from probable bleak future redundancy. The thought and reason for me joining there was however, a total emotional knot...with a hope to untie it easy in good times. But alas!

This is the chapter of my life that got me assembled to a large degree. For good or bad, the place taught me a lot…from handling mental push to refurnishing my ethical being, from avoiding head-pains to owing to some joyful souls. Life was there with me…with yet another face. It was striking and attractive yet lacked the depth and peace that soon created a vacuum of rationale and sound justification. I started to ignore what was around me, what affected me the most and what fetched me so-called happiness. I started to scale and measure every bit of ignorance and avoidance- what and who had the most. Everything in life turned out to a blanket of vague mysteries…unfolding and defraying every glimpse of moments lived. It was sure a journey…a learning curve!

Ignoring all my mass destructive experiences…this is an undemanding dedication to all my folks and friends of Hyderabad who made my existence a royal bliss. From curative conservations to gleeful acts, from prompt outings to mortifying parental combats (like the episode of Vista-Aunt-Lalita).

Som and Kavitha the ex-Gooleites with their ever Google(ing) nature reduced the atmospheric heat that normally encased me. Som being my lady and Kavitha our Godmother, only had a hut to be build for their tripled impish fun together…Living like We’re Dying.





Poker and Nchum, two superb innocent lads, always in an attempt to get off their naïve shells… sadly, too childlike by heart. Hope Nchum has set aside my brunt hair (sheltered it!!) for I have doomed it to haunt him in future. Poker my Mind-Guru…well words are boundless to share his side. Endless ‘hookah’ convos, ever-bestowing knowledge that never really got into my jiffy head, feral sight-seeing and momentary crushes. Sheer fun! I yet have more names to add on to my folks’ list…surely an enduring mix!













And, this is one kid who is adorably lovable…Topps, with a genuine heart for sonorous memories, who always had a nose to trouble me and have endangered my life if not having him invited for my wedding. Scary!! This write-up, also to be a reminder, in case.

Yea, now about my BYOM gang. Camped in Barkhatpura with five permanent members, where Jules normally shadowing the inebriated space, however, the clear night skies luckily have helped me retain those fond memories, totally unscratched and ever-joyous. Rich and Skinny (what an irony!)-both self-manufactured knew the world much more than their ages and were more a westerner than an Indian. (Intended: People can however connect to Skinny online for his ancestral or hereditary history…would make my dedication more worthy.)

The ‘lazy pilot’ is yet to land on my runway…so here he comes. The one who bothered least about the world (except few temperamental political opinion and observations) - where there was ease…there was Karthik, an absolute balm for solitude.

The pilot now accompanied by a wackiest friend Jules, has always been a pain in my spine for funny weird reason. A generous person with an annoying set of regular emotional outbreaks that made me feel utterly suicidal.His mulish and browbeating nature would piss me off to the core.

All their voices are echoing my space here now...making me reflect their images back on my hanged wall-mirror there.

And I see you all!!

Irony….On you

I felt the feeling of oneness
I felt the feeling of betrayal too
On you I decided my happiness
On you I relied for my being.
Tis’ to explain love…

I smirked for gifts and promises
I cried of vocal suffocation
On you I ravaged my time
On you I evaporated my faith.
Tis’ to explain irony of love…

I dreamt to be a companion
I vowed for truth and devotion
On you I imagined a pillar
On you I designed the wedding ring
Tis’ to explain innocence of love…

I agreed to all your odds
I grounded to all your decisions
On you I baffled my identity
On you I decayed my pride
Tis’ to explain willingness to love…

I now see you a commoner
I now pray for your corrosion
On you I hear the hunger’s cry
On you I see a prisoner’s regret
Tis’ to explain demise of my love….

I today see that same devotion
I witness the same willingness
On you I see nothing today
On him I see everything
Tis’ to explain revival of his love….

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A Bewildering Effort…For a Baked Heart

I don’t call it a dislocation, neither do I refer to it as something irreplaceable. It’s just a fracture, a fracture of feelings…finding ways to clarify. All seems so void, the feeling of ‘that’ intensity, fading. My mind sometimes boggles over the reason why we live. Is it how it is suppose to be or is it how you want it? I’ve always wondered…I still wonder. I do not blame my fate neither my destiny per se, though this sounds too sympathetic to be self consoling with the fact of existence of so-called fate and destiny.

I remember reading it somewhere...from the book of Ecclesiastes, Solomon wrote “ I returned to see under the sun that swift do not have the race, not the mighty ones the battle, nor do the wise also have the food, nor do even those having knowledge have the favor.” But why? He says “Because time and unforeseen occurrence befall them all.” Solomon seems to be pointing out that humans cannot accurately predict the outcome of any endeavor. Often, things happen to a person simply because he is in the right place at the right time, or we might say, in the wrong place at the wrong time. So does this mean of ‘that right time?’

While my friend says he COULD believe in destiny not fate. (God knows what the difference is??)He says occurrences in human lives are all about sole decisions and pragmatic moves. Well I think I should buy this thought too, that makes it worst. Contradicting my own feelings and belief of, MY FATE and MY DESTINY. I’m still wondering. Here’s a high probability of a shadow of a loser. Comforting and consoling with the support of this belief, of fate and destiny. Highly weird! Hmmm…so Slumdog Millionaire winning Eight Grand Oscar Awards mean…Destiny and the cast’s Fate (precisely for the Indian ones) huh? Well this looks expensive. I think I don’t buy this one…I see the Recession hitting me too here! Guess my friend is right...it’s all about right move at the right time. (You got to read between the lines). So Solomon is right too….well I guess I’m just a mediocre human. With highly confused philosophies of life encrypted on me by birth…Sighhhhh!!

Please pardon me if I’m magnifying my level of frustrations and aches too much. But, I think that’s what my intentions are…to be honest. I regard a piece of paper…sounds traditional? A Microsoft Word Page as the ultimate solution to all my confusions and aches…though I fail to get a solution for it. But sure makes me feel better. Typing all these, however, not imply that I’m depressed, suicidal or frustrated. Neither am I complaining of my life nor am I looking for any concrete solutions. I’ve had the best of the privileges, best of opportunities and of course the best family.. I’ve had the best of education, the best of everything that a lower middle class kid could have. This gives me reason to thank God everyday for getting the best out of me every time. A reason to realize the worth of life. A reason to write. I should be sounding all normal, just fine? Though no effort is made to turn myself, insane.

But somewhere, something frequently not normal….something unconventional occurrences. I always had a reason to lament, a tune of melancholy in the air, but still don’t relate it to be someone sad…I am always with a smile…Guess Life’s all about irony .

I do not shed my tears…neither have I tried blading my wrists…I’m not depressed. Yet, something bothers me all the time, this feeling of ambiguity gets worse due to this constant global warming. Hyderabad getting hotter everyday heats up my head and bakes my heart at an abnormal temperature. Making all in all awful. Sometimes it makes me feel like I’m possessed. Possessed by some mortal dual characters. And sometimes make me perceive of a split personality disorder. But probably could just be a seasonal affective disorder (I console myself, yet again). This feeling of ambiguity will destroy me soon.....

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